The Position of Widows in the Hindu Society
There are so many interpolations of our Vedic Shastras, especially from the West, about this highly sensitive topic, that now we feel obliged to comment about it and right the wrongs that has truly marred our understanding of this extremely delicate and misunderstood subject. In our shastras there is quite a lot of information on this matter but one should remember that one has to view the information with a modernistic mentality.
Many have requested that we compile a FAQ article on widows like the one on Pitr Paksha. We hope that this article will answer many of your questions. These are some of the questions that many have emailed to me. Do note these replies are given according to the times we live in viz. 2013/2014.
Jai Mata Dhi. All glories to our most amazing and wonderful Mothers. In any puja to Devi, particularly in Her Divine forms as Mothers Durga/Bandi/Kali, Dhaar is offered. Unfortunately there is no direct English translation of Dhaar from Sanskrit. The nearest being “The Divine Wine”... now I said wine, but it does not refer to the famous wines we produce here in South Africa, rather this beverage - the “wine” - is especially Devi's favourite. Many have been offering Devi Dhaar but have never had an idea as to why. So, below we are furnishing you with shastric proof of Dhaar and its importance in Devi puja.